Good Father

Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too

          - John Mayer, Daughters -

Ayah membelikan aku sebuah laptop berwarna merah muda, aku ingat betul waktu itu kenaikan kelas sebelas. Aku memang minta dibelikan laptop untuk kebutuhan tugas sekolah.Tanpa bersusah payah merayu, ayah langsung ganti baju untuk mengantarkan aku ke sebuah acara pameran komputer di Gramedia expo, saat itu aku tinggal di Surabaya. 

Sesampainya di acara pameran, aku berkeliling melihat - lihat display laptop yang di pajang.

Sungguh banyak dan bagus - bagus, apalagi warnanya.. bikin makin bingung mau beli yang mana. 

Tiba - tiba Ayah membawaku ke salah satu sudut etalase, ada Laptop berwarna pink soft dengan layar 14 inch. Tanpa banyak bicara aku langsung manggut - manggut meng-iya-kan tawarannya. 

Dengan perasaan bahagia, aku peluk erat -erat laptop itu di perjalanan pulang hingga sampai dirumah.

Beberapa bulan setelah pembelian laptop ini, aku memang sangat merasa terbantu karena tugas - tugas sekolah dalam bentuk power point dengan begitu mudahnya aku kerjakan. 

Sore menjelang maghrib Ayah pulang kantor, dan memanggilku untuk datang ke ruang tengah. Ternyata aku di belikan laptop lagi dengan spec yang lebih canggih dan merk yang lebih bagus, laptop itu limited editon khusus bulan Februari bertepatan dengan perayaan Valentine, warnanya merah muda menyeluruh sampai bagian dalam keyboard nya, sungguh laptop yang bagus. Tapi aku agak kesal mengapa ayah begitu boros, padahal laptop yang sebelumnya, baru aku gunakan sekitar tiga bulan.

Bukan hanya itu, dia membelikan mouse, sd card, card reader, penyambung tambahan usb, dan headphone yang semuanya berwarna senada, yaitu merah muda. 

Ayah mungkin berpendapat bahwa aku menyukai warna itu, sebenarnya aku lebih suka warna coklat. Tapi semenjak ayah membelikan aku barang - barang berwarnah merah muda, aku jadi mulai suka warna merah muda

Ayah selalu membelikan barang - barang yang bagus, padahal aku belum memintanya, ayah selalu ingin memberikan barang yang istimewa. Ayah sangat memanjakan aku, tapi setelah aku beranjak dewasa hingga lulus SMA, aku membuat suatu pilihan sendiri untuk kelanjutan pendidikan. 

Aku memutuskan untuk kuliah di salah satu perguruan tinggi di tanah kelahiranku di ibu kota. 

Kejadian yang aku ingat adalah ketika kedua orang tua mengantarkan aku ke bandara, saat menunggu take off ayah sama sekali tidak mau duduk disampingku, beliau malah berdiri di suatu sudut. Mungkin ayah takut apabila ia tidak dapat menahan air matanya untuk melepas keberangkatan anaknya.

Kontras dengan mama yang sedari tadi sudah terisak - isak tangisnya. 

Tapi saat ini, saat aku menulis ini, malah aku yang susah payah untuk menahan air mata. 

Aku sendirian disini, tanpa mereka. 

Sulit untuk menangisi hal yang tak seharusnya di tangisi. Aku tau aku rindu.

Semoga Tuhan selalu ada untuk mu, Ayah dan Mama.

When you was in serious relationship with underage boyfee

Did someone ever asking you to be commit? when you was in high school? Whoever you with an underage boyfee. It's normal. . I am sure, that you ever had conversation like this.
It makes spotting memory, and you've been working now, you don't want to commit before you had monthly salary more than 20 million and preparing some kind of achievement that you want to take it in the next.
Mark it! the point is 'saying things without thingking'.
sometimes, all he ever said to you just please.. don't take it too serious. If you are a girl within age below 20 y/o and you had an realationship . Do not put your self too small in front of him. Let it be. Although he is your beloved person. As soon you will realize, the times goes by, both of you was in fire to build your own bond.
Okey,You have to learn how to appreciate the feelings of men and how to understand each others, but still stick around throught day by day, until you encounter a farewell party in high school graduation. The best night ever, and the worst night after broke up. The Black and White situation. It seems to be border between sweet dreams and nightmares.

If he had been mature enough, then he will never asking you to commit. The first thing to do is, He run, visit your parents for asking you to be his wife. NOT asking you to be commit, at least he has built the trust of half the day with you when you both in exploratory by each other.

You have to see the world,  so many men in this world you've never known. Doesn't mean you have to know a lot of men in the world, but this is an opportunity to know more about how the general nature of a man, from the lessons of experience that you can accept the man that you deserve to live together.
if you want to end the single, you should think about for sure. Marriage wassn't an easy thing, all those who are married say it. but it is indeed a compulsory. We are young now, take the advantage of this time to find something good for yourself, your experience is a provision to build a better life in the future.

Please Stop Making Stupid People Famous

Hii readers, great feelings to start write my first posting.
I would give my opinion about topic in which lately discussed by the public.
Ever you seen the program tv show as we all know it 'Mata Najwa' ? Some time ago.. Mata Najwa presented Farhat abbas as a man who running to become The NEXT Mr.President. .
Yesterday was a day, there lot of people intensely repath video for Bung Farhat abbas and Najwa who was doing interactive talk that horrendous people in all social media is..
In the video there is a trap question by najwa which reverses question the vision of Farhat.
Najwa frequently asked questions about what the program will be made by farhat when he was selected to be president

Najwa : “ What vision you have planned if you have successfully selected as president? “
Farhat : "I will make education free of charge"
Najwa: "if everyone would get it?"
Farhat: "oh, of course not, only the smart can be free, which is not smart they have to pay"
Najwa: "okay good. How when you're at school? your paid or free?"
farhat: "I paid"
From the conversation, viewers judged that farhat is fool. And that’s all the conversations that have been horrendous society. And not only these thing that make a lot of people not enthusiastic to him. Previously he had a lot make insinuations whether it criticized political issues, celebrities, and other things. By making a lot of people angry over his sharp words. It really look creepy for a lawyer like him to say too much on his social account. Yeah, as Indonesian society, we know Farhat abbas worked as a lawyer before he propose to be a president.
And I don't even think what goes on his mind for all above the bullshit criticize that he spread on his twitter account about all the things. I'm just confused, why would anyone look smart, but being so naive. And our people have to know, he wants to be a president.
hello? how come? if this country is led by men like that? holy crab. But, here is the point.
People excited about “What goes on Farhat”, it made ​​merealized. By always talking about him, he became more and more pleased. Because he would think there -a lot of people care about him-that’s disgusted..
in this article I just want to say "Vox populi vox dei" (voice of the people is the voice of God)
of his presence in a variety of events will surely shape his image, public opinion should be a lesson to Farhat. Your insults didn’t make him be more intelligent, It made him famous. Just stop, stop making it bigger.

The Body Image

To keep the body in good health is a duty. Otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. - Buddha

Perkembangan selera fashion yang gempar di sajikan oleh berbagai media cetak, maupun media elektronik menjadikan acuan khalayak tertentu, khususnya bagi kaum hawa berkompetisi untuk tampil sempurna. Bukan cuma sekedar cantik, namun mereka juga memaksimalkan outlook agar lebih menarik dengan tampil unik. Atas dasar keinginan tersebut, untuk tampil cantik dan unik kaum hawa mendambakan tubuh yang indah, agar mereka bisa bebas untuk bereksperimen dengan gaya busana terkini.

Taukah kalian? bahwa kita harus mengenali bentuk tubuh kita, agar kita lebih mahir dalam berbusana. Bukan malah jadi tidak besyukur atas apa yang telah Tuhan karuniakan kepada kita.
Dalam bahasan kali ini, saya akan berbagi informasi seputar gambaran tubuh. semoga bermanfaat :)

Body Image dibagi menjadi dua macam yaitu Body Image Positive dan Body Image Negative.
Seseorang dengan Body Image Positive memiliki sebuah persepsi yang nyata terhadap ukuran dan bentuk tubuhnya, dan merasa nyaman dengan apa yang ada dirinya. Sementara, seseorang dengan Body Image Negative memiliki pemahaman yang menyimpang mengenai bentuk dan ukuran tubuhnya, mereka amat suka membandingkan tubuhnya dengan orang lain, dan merasa malu dengan tubuhnya sendiri.
Disekitar kita ada begitu banyak orang dengan Body Image Negative. Namun, ini tak mengherankan karena hampir semua orang di dunia saat ini berada di bawah tekanan untuk mengukur sebuah ke-ideal-an tubuh dari standar ukuran, yang meliputi berat badan, dan tinggi badan.

Yang memprihatinkan, sebagian yang gagal meraih keindahan ideal itu, menjadi tak senang pada tubuh mereka sendiri dan membuat mereka mudah stres, rendah diri, dan mengalami gangguan nafsu makan.

Ada beberapa hal praktis, yang bisa Anda terapkan untuk membuat Body Image Anda tetap postive dengan cara :
+ Mengikuti perkembangan tren tubuh ideal dan menanggapinya dengan bijaksana
+ Menghargai diri sendiri
+ Menyediakan waktu untuk memanjakan diri
+ Tidak terfokus pada ukuran dan berat badan
+ Mengembangkan bakat dan hobi
+ Memperbanyak prestasi. Jika kita punya banyak prestasi maka kita akan lebih bangga dan menyayangi diri

Dengan mengetahui Body Image kita, tentunya cara kita memperlakukan diri bisa jadi lebih baik.

"Seharusnya bukan model busana yang menuntut bentuk tubuh, tapi berbusanalah yang sepantasnya sesuai bentuk tubuh"

Inspiration

"It's not what you are good at, it's what you enjoy the most"

Ditemukan Dalam suatu artikel, yang memuat tentang dirinya lewat interview eksklusif dengan Author buku Carrer Snippet, Rene Suhardono. 

Jerry Aurum memaparkan sebuah gambaran tentang passion yang mendasari awal pembentukan karirnya. 

Life fulfillment dan enjoyment selalu mendasari setiap tindakan dan inisiatif dalam diri seorang Jerry. Karyanya pun merefleksikan nilai nilai yang dia yakini. 

Seakan uang dan ketenaran tidak perlu dituju, keduanya hanyalah salah satu wujud apresiasi terhadap karya dan kontribusi. 

Berikut cuplikan artikel tersebut...

What your passion? 

My passion is all about creating. In my line of work, I choose photography as my main interest. Why? It just comes from within. Something that I enjoyed starting doing since day one and slowly become better in it. But I have learned that I never  want to be trapped in my self-created box. I also enjoy designing, architecture, writing and movies. They all contribute knowledge and imaginations one to another, and keep fulfilling eaclch other every time I get better in one field. 

What made you decide to do what you're doing right now?

It's not one day decision. It's kind of trial and error combined with courage, risk taking and irresistible urge to keep doing it. Besides, I felt like my creator has given me a little bit of talent in my profession, so it never really give too much thoughts on my reasons anymore, it's more about how I can improve myself and my team every time we have project obstacle.

Youa are a well-known designer and photograper - how do you balance between the need to make yourself a better person against your "eksternal archivement" 

In a creative field like I do, I believe that you can't do a better work if you fail to make yourself a better person. Once you lose interest, your work will look crappy. So self development is equally as important. We have to remind ourselves that many other things are also nice besides our passion. 

And the best part is whatever nice may always contribute back to our passion. It's never a waste to take a couple of months off for creative mind.

Setelah membaca artikel tadi, tentu banyak pemikiran yang membuat saya, lebih wise dalam mengambil sudut pandang suatu situasi yang tengah saya hadapi sebelum-sebelumnya. 

Segala hal yang saya jalankan akan lebih nikamat bila di samping itu terdapat passion yang mengiringi.

Intinya kerjakan / buatlah hal apapun yang kita suka dan nikmatilah itu, untuk hasil dan penghargaan tentu dikesampingkan dahulu, agar hasil yang akan kita terima dalam prosesnya bukan hanya sekedar dinilai baik, tapi kita juga dinilai berkompeten dalam hal tersebut. 

Coba silakan cek website Jerry Aurum untuk melihat karya - karyanya  

begin again

// BEGIN AGAIN//

DEAR ALL,

I’VE MADE THIS ACCOUNT http://www.facebook.com/amanda.nurfazriah BECAUSE I WAS SO TIRED TO USED MY OLD FACEBOOK, WITH MORE THAN FIVE THOUSAND ACCOUNTS THAT HAVE BECOME MY FRIENDS IN THERE.
MY OLD ACCOUNT WAS HACKED BY SOMEONE, BUT HOW LUCKY AM I? I CAN FIX IT SO FASTLY, BUT IT’S NOT AS GOOD AS I THOUGHT. SO MANY “ALAY” IN THERE, BECAUSE 800++ FRIEND REQUESTS ARE ACCEPTED BY THE HACKER WITHOUT FILTERING. IT’S VERY VERY SUCK..

AND I JUST WISH I HAD ANOTHER CHANCE TO DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN WITH A FRESH START.

SO, I DID ONE & THIS IS NEW!
MY OLD FACEBOOK CONTAIN ELEMENT OF BITTER AND SWEET MEMORIES, MY COURSE MATE..MY JUNIOR, ALSO MY SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL..AND OF COURSE THE STRANGERS WHO I DIDN’T KNOW WHO THEY ARE.
I REALIZED EVEN THOUGH FRIENDS AND PEOPLE I HAVE KNOWN WERE WE STARTED AS STRANGERS TOO AT FIRST. BUT THAT’S NOT THE MATTER I MEAN..

THE HARDEST PART OF TROUBLE ENDING IS STARTING AGAIN..


PREVIOUSLY I WAS TOO LAZY TO MAKE FACEBOOK ANYMORE, BECAUSE I THINK I’VE GOT A LOT OF SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS THAT TOO OFTEN I IGNORE. HOWEVER, THERE ARE SEVERAL REASONS THAT’S MAKE ME WANT TO STILL EXIST IN FACEBOOK. INCLUDING NOW I RETURNED TO MY HOMETOWN WITH A NEW FORMAT, AND I’VE BEEN IN COLLEGE, WORKS AND LOTS.
THE POINT IS.. I WANT “THE NEW” PEOPLE WHO KNOW ME IN LATELY COULD KNOW MORE ABOUT ME, AND I COULD STILL KEEP IN TOUCH WITH OLD FRIENDS. SEE?

SO IF YOU FOUND MY OLD ONE, UNFRIEND IT HTTP://WWW.FACEBOOK.COM/AMANDA.BELLISSIMA?REF=TS&FREF=TS

MAYBE IT’S NOT ABOUT TRYING TO FIX A MESS, IT’S ABOUT STARTING OVER AND CREATING SOMETHING MORE BETTER.

an emotional

that day seems to be a historic day .. november twenty-sixth meeting in 2008 initial steps are not to be forgotten even though I'm in a state of sleep everywhere only his name and only memory of him that I might,

like plants growing feeling that as plants continue to wither a shower every day I hope a sense of returned to live and grow as the first

If only this time you hear a lover's heart like this I like the song of heaven will not lie though greed ruled myself an emotional deep down I still want you as my love and soul will not lie,

but sometimes love just hate disturbed

and thousand music will not be able to entertain a heart full of anger

for some reason we split up when I started having

and I know I'm the first to end this relationship

I do not know I was stupid or do not feel that you really do not want to hear those words,

but we both know that it was a state of both being pinched us

if one day we were brought back, I do not want to let the loss for the secondary

it's enough given me a lesson like this, I'm sure we both do not hurting or felt hurt therefore, should not we give ourselves a chance for each to be reunite the two bodies into one heart, sharing, giving and loving our lives and bring back that which lately seemed to die

if this is still yours to miss me present to you a question how long should I wait? I'm waiting for you

in the good times with you as we could never be forgotten eyes with all your soul destroying feeling, my everlasting...

What a year can do to you

It's Funny how someone who was just a stranger last year, can mean so much to you now.
It's terrible that someone who meant so much to you last year, can be just a stranger now.

And It's AMAZING what a year can do.....

A Personal Journey in Unending Quest For Self-Mastery. Nonfiction Book, Self-Help

Hello people

May be I'm late to tell about this, after reading this book some time ago, you shoulda know gals... it's Truly! kinda bored. but I am sure when we were gonna share a knowledge of anything of course, there will be no vain. at least saya telah membuktikan bila kita cermati dengan bijak ini sangat menentukan cara belajar kita terhadap pelajaran yang akan kita terima.

F.Y.I dulu saya memang bukan anak yang rajin belajar, kian hari setelah saya bekerja di usia saya yang dini, saya disadari betul akan pentingnya pengetahuan OF ANYTHING ya!  Apalagi sekarang saya bekerja di sebuah perusahaan yang berorientasi di bidang publicity sebuah Media cetak yang bertempat di daerah Jakarta selatan. Di kantor tempat saya bekerja tentunya banyak wartawan dan orang-orang yang sangat cepat update soal informasi. Dengan mau tidak mau, suka atau tidak suka, setiap hari kita selalu mendapatkan berita baru begitu cepatnya tentang sebuah, bahkan lebih banyak informasi yang kita terima dan  harus di filter dengan pemikiran dan keyakinan yang berasas pada pendidikan yang jauh-jauh kita raih di sekolah, dikampus, ataupun dimana saja kita singgah. ( that's we called - flood of information - )

Kita harus belajar, dan kita memang butuh untuk selalu belajar. Mengingat kata-kata Bapak Alie Djahri selaku dosen ilmu Penghantar Psikologi di kampus saya bahwa " Life is Never Ending Learning "
bahwa hidup ini adalah belajar, belajar adalah bukan masalah akan penentuan hasil nilai ujian yang bagus, bahwa belajar sama dengan proses, saya amat setuju dengan fakta ini, " bukan cuma hasil yang dinilai, namun sejatinya proses yang akan merubah pola pikir "

Tentunya beda orang, beda juga cara belajarnya. Namun Victor Setiawan Taslim mengajak kita How to learn in a good and concrete with a definite and clear. Bukunya yang berjudul Changing Impossible to I'm Possible menarik minat baca saya, dengan title yang Catchy tentu ONE poin yang telah saya berikan dari Mahkota buku ini, dengan judul yang cerdas dan singkat.
Bukunya ditulis dengan full english version, saya masih belum tau apakah buku ini menjual versi bahasa Indonesia, Dengan harga buku yang bisa dibilang tidak murah dengan tebal 126 halaman. Tapi I guarantee, you will not regret if you buy this slim book at a WOW price, because of its content quality, no wonder..why this book so expensive :)

Let's prove yourself  to see the thrill per page A book of Victor Setiawan Taslim

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